There is something negative about “trying to become a better person.“ Let me explain. In spit of the fact that this sentiment is fashionable in AA and recovery rooms, I wish to point out a subtle distinction between past-oriented recovery and future-oriented recovery. Past-oriented recovery focuses a lot on what a terrible person you were, …
It is not just human who suffer and create problems with drunkenness. Even elephants, rats and fruit flies can get drunk and pursue alcohol. In India elephants will charge villagers brewing rice beer or liquor, chase them off and drink up. In 2004 a band of 15 young elephants got drunk, became rowdy and knocked …
Common, normal and healthy … that is what I would call drinking dreams. Every recovering alcoholic has them. It is a sign that you are scared of drinking, healthily so. You wake up terrified that you have taken a drink. How nice to realize you are still sober! But the dream lets you have a …
Newcomers can be excited and enthusiastic about being sober. They talk about how wonderful it is, they pledge allegiance to AA, they are seen a lot at meetings and then… then… they disappear. “Where have all the 30-day wonders gone?” muses an old timer, “Where do they go when they leave?” Some of them come …